I have just split from a guy i was seeing for
a year. I am trying to get over the death of
my dad 8 months bk too and i am finding it
very hard to smile these days. I didn't need
another loss. Anyone got any advice on how i
can get this man outta my head? Toward the
end he wasn't very nice to me anyway but you
cant help who you fall for can you. Help!!!
ther is no cure, time heels , an it helps if
u stay away from them so they dont mess ur
hed up, get out an about, stay busy an enjoy
being single b4 da nex looser comes along
thats a hard one. you need to find a new
direction in life what i couldn't even begin
to say ,only you know where when and what you
want out of life. it should be a good time to
sit and think what you want out of your life,
so good luck in what you choose.
Oh hunny, sometimes life is so hard and
unkind. Sounds like you're best off without
your x, love can be painful and it hurts...
but it does get better, just takes time.
Im sorry to hear about the loss of your dad,
losing a loved one is never easy, life ends
but your love for your dad will never. I'm
sure he would want you to be happy and not to
hurt so much. It's time to try to move on,
get yourself out, be with family and friends
and try to have some fun, to enjoy life
again.
At the moment you may feel you cant get over
your X but in time you will look back and
think... I dont need him.
You take care hunnyx
Thank you all so much, its nice to know that
there are genuinely lovely people out there.
I know that the best thing is to busy myself
with friends etc.. but the problem is i have
cut them off and its so sad. I guess time
will do it? I wish there was a manual! I am
also a soul that hates to be alone. Life is
so cruel at times. Thanks y'all
Just remember your still young u have got
your whole life ahead of u.life is full of
ups and downs where one door closes another
one opens. i wish u luck and happiness in the
future.
you will find the rite person if some1 can't
be there in a crisis there not worth hving
around u at all... surround yrself with good
people and that will make u feel good...
chapter 10... verse 9 whatever that means but
sounds good...
me too! i had to swallow some pride and offer
some apologies to a few friends i'd
completely chopped out of my life but after
that, i've found a mixture of going to the
gym / going out with my friends / working /
talking on here till stupid o'clock in the
morning (in short, keeping busy) and the
right measure of vodka has helped ....
well .... a little any way.
i've been acused of being a cynic on here and
to an extent that's probably fair but i'm
also a romantic at heart so i guess that
makes me a romantic-cynic / cynical romantic
??? either way, i'm looking at it like
this : If it doesn't hurt like he11 then it
wasn't love. Time doesn't heal it cos you'll
always remember it but, time will help to
ease it as the memories soften from the
jagged blades they are at the moment. You
will be able to look back and remember the
good times with a smile in the future if you
want to .... when that time is right for you
hi buddy my name is frolic first wat have to
do mean . dont be along chill out with ur
friends and go outstation and stay refresh ur
mind and who giving good love u go there and
speak well with the open heart ok. my email
id is (edited).in u can sent me mail
oh iv felt like that b4 with the one and only
girl i ever been with i didnt deal with it as
good as i couldve you should talk it over
with sum1 you can trust
Huni i know how you feel, I just lost my
grandfather who i was very close to and me
and my bf recenty went on a break and
although we got back together i kinda feel
like he's gonna dump me. I actually dont know
what to do... but i think i just wanna talk
to people who feel the same as i do... i'll
tell you what helps me, going to the gym and
working yourself so hard you can't think
about anything but the physical pain...
Amylou96
itsc hard, but you say at the end he wasnt
very nice to you so think of it as a
blessing, to have stayed in the relationship
longer could have hurt even more
like we say lots of pebbles on the beach your
a nice looking lass get out with your mates
enjoy your live your young your find another
love, just smile
best wishes john
I had been seeing my boyfriend for over a
year too, and we only broke up the night
before last. Everyone thinks I'm being so
strong but I cry myself to sleep at night. He
was also nasty to me towards the end of the
relationship. What is it with guys? I thought
we truly loved each other but I guess towards
the end it was a one-sided thing. The only
thing I can say is to keep your head up, try
and be strong - as someone told me only
yesterday, 'a break-up is just the phase of
getting one step closer to the one you are
really meant to be with'. Good Luck...
don't keep beating yourself up, love don't
come easy?, what becomes of the broken
hearted?. they suffer, however, when the
right guy comes along, and he will, your pain
will go, you need time, as you have suffered
a great loss of your dad, he would not want
you to be in pain, so keep your self/mind
busy, and all will be ok, i do hope this
helps.
Emmybearbroken...What you said at the end of
your post was great!"A break up is just being
one step closer to being with the person you
are really meant to be with" i have to say
that is a phrase i will always carry with me
throughout my life now.That is a truly
brilliant way of putting it.Thank you.And
thanks to there rest of you too,nice to know
there r so many lovely ppl around.xx
hi so sorry to hear about your dad passing,
I too have lost my dad so I know how it
feels. Mine went 8 years ago and in time you
will feel better, keep close friends around
you and look to the future. Forget the guy, I
split from my ex not long after dad died, he
was the least of my worries then!!!! I am in
a dilema, see my thread, has my man
cheated?!!! arrrghhh MEN!!!! Keep well
i'm sooooooo soryy to hear about your dad.
there is no cure for this one really time
will heel this no matter how long it takes.
but remember you will never fully get over it
but with time you will realise your dad wud
want u to get on with your life and be happy.
When you learn to love yourself, you will see
that the relationship probably wasn't all
that anyway, and you in turn see your ex in a
whole different light.
I found that it helped just to get through
one day at a time, to not plan ahead.
And try not to remember good times, as it
will hurt you even more; when you are over
the pain, then you can remember good times in
fondness.
Unfortunately, loss is a part of life, in
whichever form it comes.
I was actually a total mess at the beginning
of this year, and the guys on here really did
help me through my darkest times (whether
they know it or not!)
You will get through this, but you have to
give yourself time, and try not sdkip any
parts of the healing process.
You will be ok.
Just don't pressure or blame yourself.
You can think...I shouldn't feel like this
because he was nasty to me anyway. You can
think that you are better off without him etc
etc. Then you can even begin to think that
its reasonable for you to think like that.
Accepting - really accepting - that it is
truly the case is a whole different
matter.Real love is a feeling. Its not
rational by definition. Soooo when it ends
you can rationalise all the sensible
arguments in the world to yourself about why
you should get over it... but until you can
really feel it you never do really get over
it.....and pressurising yourself to do that
is likely to have precisely the opposite
effect.
Its natural to feel awful - its expected in
fact. So go ahead and feel awful - its just a
stage you have to get past and will get past
in time when you are good and ready.
And....DON'T bottle it all up and pretend you
feel ok - for it will only leap out and bite
you later on. Far better to give yourself
time to deal with it now.
hello ,sorry to impose but let me introduce
myself ,my names lee by the way,and hope you
didnt mind me sending a message,im not here
to flirt or chat you up in anyway,just would
like to ask did you get the help you needed
afterwards,and im not a doctor and not a
samartain ,but i do like to help people,if i
may,im into wicca,and some blessings can help
,or some spells might ease your mind ,but
like i said im not going to chat you up,i
dont come on here much,its up to you,but
just trying to help,and if not ,thats ok but
thats my trouble realy,dont like people sad
Brownnai-That reply was lovely and made so
much sense to me,it really got thru to me so
thankyou a million times.Dazjim-Again,lovely
and the words were so true.Its really nice
knowing that there are such nice ppl out
there.Thank you. x
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